Learning to
trust ourselves really isn’t an easy task, in fact it can be one of the hardest
things we have to learn in life. Think about it, how many people do you know
that are truly in touch with themselves and able to trust their instincts,
bodies and thoughts?
It all
seems a bit silly really, like we have not evolved but in fact taken several
hundred steps back since prehistoric times, when all man had were their
instincts to help them to live and survive on a daily basis!
Although
with the evolution of relationships, family, and networks of friends and
colleagues, not to mention the invention of technology and therapy, we are no
longer very sure about ourselves. We certainly do not ever consider acting on
instinct alone, and if we do we tend to spend time either regretting it or
worrying if it was the right thing to do!
Nevertheless,
even though we seem to be getting along ok without the element of self-trust
our ancestors had, it is vital to our wellbeing, mental state and lives. I know
that we are not going around hunting for our food or protecting our young from
attacking predators anymore, but this doesn’t mean that self-trust doesn’t have
a place in the modern world.
In fact self-belief
and trust is even more important to us than ever before, as not only does it
make us feel better, and more settled, it also helps us to stop relying on outside
sources for validation on aspects of our life that we need to be the keepers
of.
So how do
you begin to develop a sense of trust in yourself?
Listen to your body – Listen to what your mind and body are
saying, do you have a peaceful feeling about a decision or situation? Or do you
feel a little sick or have a lump in your tummy? Obviously you know which one
is the best for you?
Turn the negative into a positive – Every time you have a negative
thought about a situation, try and turn it into a positive, if there isn’t one…
maybe it’s not the best thing for you?
Ask yourself – When you hear that loud voice of Ego
starting to talk to you, stop and ask yourself if this is really the way you
feel, the more you can quiet the ego the more sure you will be of yourself.
Stop and be in the moment – It is very important to learn to
be in the moment, to stop all those thoughts that race through our heads every minute
of every day and just concentrate on the issue at hand.
Use Affirmations – Affirmations will help you to re-train your
mind and thinking so that you are able to begin gaining trust in yourself.
The more we
trust in ourselves the more we will see our lives improve and the happier we
will be. Trusting in ourselves will allow us to be confident in all we do, and
be a success in everything we put our minds to.
If you feel
like you are lacking in trust for yourself, just start practicing these steps
above on a daily basis, and you will be amazed at the results.
Please be
aware that change will not happen overnight, but instead gradually over a
period of time, and it may be so subtle that you don’t even notice!
So good
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